7 Amazing ways to Deal with Jealous Feelings
Best ways to cope with jealous feelings
How to Cope with Jealous Feelings
Here are some best tips to cope with jealous feelings.
1A.
Understand what jealousy is. It’s a mixture of fear and
anger – usually the fear of losing someone who’s important to you, and anger at
the person who is “taking over”. Recognise that it’s a destructive and negative
emotion - and often nothing good comes out of it.
2A. Try
and figure out why you’re feeling jealous. Is it related to some
past failure that is undermining your ability to trust? Are you feeling anxious
and insecure? Do you suffer from low self-esteem, or fear of abandonment?
3A. Be
honest with yourself about how your jealousy affects other people. Do
friends or partners always have to justify their actions and thoughts, or
always report on where they were, or who they were with? That kind of pressure
is destructive in the end, and puts a strain on relationships.
4A.
Find the courage to tackle your feelings. Decide to question your
jealousy every time it surfaces. That will enable you to take positive steps to
manage your feelings in a healthier and more constructive way. Some possible
questionsto ask yourself include: “Why am I jealous about this?”; “What exactly
is making me feel jealous?”; “What or who am I afraid of losing?”; “Why do I
feel so threatened?”
5A.
Work on changing any false beliefs that might be fueling your jealousy. Start
this process by identifying the underlying belief, for example “If X leaves me,
then I won’t have any friends”; “If Y doesn’t love me then no-one will ever
want or love me”. Understand, that beliefs are often false – and that they can
be changed through choice. If you change your belief, you change the way you
feel.
6A.
Learn from your jealousy. Jealousy can help understand ourselves
better – and teach us important lessons. For example, it’s natural to feel
frightened when a relationship is new, and you don’t yet feel secure. This is
normal and commonplace! Also, some people DO have a roving eye, and they may
lack commitment in the longer term. Better you know that now, than later on.
7A.
Work on accepting and trusting yourself. That makes it easier to trust
others, too, and lessens our tendency to feel jealous of others.