how to Deal with Jealous Feelings

7 Amazing ways to Deal with Jealous Feelings

Best ways to cope with jealous feelings

How to Cope with Jealous Feelings

Here are some best tips to cope with jealous feelings.

1A. Understand what jealousy is. It’s a mixture of fear and anger – usually the fear of losing someone who’s important to you, and anger at the person who is “taking over”. Recognise that it’s a destructive and negative emotion - and often nothing good comes out of it.

2A. Try and figure out why you’re feeling jealous. Is it related to some past failure that is undermining your ability to trust? Are you feeling anxious and insecure? Do you suffer from low self-esteem, or fear of abandonment?

3A. Be honest with yourself about how your jealousy affects other people. Do friends or partners always have to justify their actions and thoughts, or always report on where they were, or who they were with? That kind of pressure is destructive in the end, and puts a strain on relationships. 

4A. Find the courage to tackle your feelings. Decide to question your jealousy every time it surfaces. That will enable you to take positive steps to manage your feelings in a healthier and more constructive way. Some possible questionsto ask yourself include: “Why am I jealous about this?”; “What exactly is making me feel jealous?”; “What or who am I afraid of losing?”; “Why do I feel so threatened?”

5A. Work on changing any false beliefs that might be fueling your jealousy. Start this process by identifying the underlying belief, for example “If X leaves me, then I won’t have any friends”; “If Y doesn’t love me then no-one will ever want or love me”. Understand, that beliefs are often false – and that they can be changed through choice. If you change your belief, you change the way you feel.

6A. Learn from your jealousy. Jealousy can help understand ourselves better – and teach us important lessons. For example, it’s natural to feel frightened when a relationship is new, and you don’t yet feel secure. This is normal and commonplace! Also, some people DO have a roving eye, and they may lack commitment in the longer term. Better you know that now, than later on.

7A. Work on accepting and trusting yourself. That makes it easier to trust others, too, and lessens our tendency to feel jealous of others.

Music and Brain

Do you Move while listening Music Beats?

Interesting research on Music beats and Brain responses

People who are better able to move to a beat show more consistent brain responses to speech than those with less rhythm

Study suggests musical training could possibly sharpen language processing

People who are better able to move to a beat show more consistent brain responses to speech than those with less rhythm, according to a study published in the issue of The Journal of Neuroscience. The findings suggest that musical training could possibly sharpen the brain’s response to language.

Scientists have long known that moving to a steady beat requires synchronization between the parts of the brain responsible for hearing and movement. In the current study, Professor Nina Kraus, PhD, and Adam Tierney, PhD, at Northwestern University examined the relationship between the ability to keep a beat and the brain’s response to sound.

More than 100 teenagers from the Chicago area participated in the Kraus Lab study, where they were instructed to listen and tap their finger along to a metronome. The teens’ tapping accuracy was computed based on how closely their taps aligned in time with the “tic-toc” of the metronome. In a second test, the researchers used a technique called electroencephalography (EEG) to record brainwaves from a major brain hub for sound processing as the teens listened to the synthesized speech sound “da” repeated periodically over a 30-minute period. The researchers then calculated how similarly the nerve cells in this region responded each time the “da” sound was repeated.

“Across this population of adolescents, the more accurate they were at tapping along to the beat, the more consistent their brains’ response to the ‘da’ syllable was,” Kraus said. Because previous studies show a link between reading ability and beat-keeping ability as well as reading ability and the consistency of the brain’s response to sound, Kraus explained that these new findings show that hearing is a common basis for these associations.

“Rhythm is inherently a part of music and language,” Kraus said. “It may be that musical training, with an emphasis on rhythmic skills, exercises the auditory-system, leading to strong sound-to-meaning associations that are so essential in learning to read.”

John Iversen, PhD, who studies how the brain processes music at the University of California, San Diego, and was not involved with this study, noted that the findings raise the possibility that musical training may have important impacts on the brain.”This study adds another piece to the puzzle in the emerging story suggesting that musical rhythmic abilities are correlated with improved performance in non-music areas, particularly language,” he said.

Kraus’ group is now working on a multi-year study to evaluate the effects of musical training on beat synchronization, response consistency, and reading skills in a group of children engaging in musical training.

This research was funded by the National Science Foundation.

The Journal of Neuroscience is published by the Society for Neuroscience, an organization of more than 42,000 basic scientists and clinicians who study the brain and nervous system.

Know Yourself Better

Interesting Questions to Know Yourself Better

1A. If you could change one aspect of your life or personality, what would it be?

2A. Are you “your own person” or are you defined and pushed around by others?

3A. Is there any area of your life where you feel out of control?

4A. Do you feel more comfortable in an organised or chaotic environment?

5A. How comfortable are you with spontaneous ideas, or a last minute change in plans?

6A. Do you feel renewed by being around others, or is it crucial for you to have time on your own?

7A. Are you motivated, or undermined, by competition?

8A. Do you work well under pressure, or do you tend to fall apart?

9A. Are you better at praising and complimenting others, or at consciously affirming and building yourself up?

10A. Are you a morning or an evening person?

11A. Do you persevere, or do you give up easily?

12A. Do you like to go with the flow, or take control of your own life?

13A. Are you more of a thinker or a feeler?

14A. What are your passions and goals?

15A. What would your perfect day look like?

Jingle bells Jingle bells...

Wear saree with a modern twist

Modern interpretations of a sari, the six-yard wonder wrap of ethnic Indian wear, are becoming a rage among women, who like a western and functional touch in their ensembles.
Premier design label Satya Paul's sari collections have several options for fashionistas:

Ready to wear
Try suspender and armhole saris. Divided palazzos of the suspender sari don't restrict your movement and the unstitched pallu can also be worn as a stole. You can literally 'slip into' the pallu of armhole saris as these have pre-stitched opening for the arm. You need not pin it up.
Demi Couture
The sari gown is a no-fuss drape. It has a sleek pallu fastened over the shoulder. It can also be worn as a dress. Wear a belt or kamarbandh on top of it to highlight your waist.
Festive collection
Wear pre-stitched kaftan sari as an off-shoulder dress or with blouse to maintain the traditional look.

Easy makeup tips for bride-to-be

To make a beautiful bride, just use a little common sense!

Make sure the salon uses waterproof eye makeup
Most brides cry at their weddings. Even if you don't think you're the crying variety, with so many waterproof products out there, why take a chance?

Use a long-lasting lipstick
When they first came out, most were dry and not suitable for a day-filled with close-ups and endless congratulatory kisses. But the new generation wised up with separate colour and moisturiser. Apply the colour once at the beginning of the day, and re-moisturise a couple of times to keep lips luscious and picture-perfect.

Employ a spot checker
This could be your cheeky sister or your dedicated best friend or the over-enthusiastic aunt who wanted to get you married the day you were born… Your mother is another good candidate. Ask them to keep an eye on you and let you know if you need a touch up. They might also do you the favour of stashing your lipstick in their purse for easy access.

Stash backups!
Stake out the bathrooms or changing facility at the venue. Stash an emergency kit including powder to beat down shiny noses, a hairbrush, hairspray, lipstick, a small perfume, and safety pins, along with anything else you think you might need.

Take a test run
Make sure you test out beauty products several times-you wouldn't want to find out the morning of your wedding that you're allergic to that luscious gold gloss!

Chuck brushes to apply make-up

Be it washroom or dressing table or bag, make-up tools always manage to find a place -- thanks to our need to apply make-up.
Instead of splashing out a bomb on the tools and filling up your cabinet with numerous brushes, choose items that are easily available and are pocket-friendly too.
Huffingtonpost.com shares a list of items that can be used to apply make-up:
Wedge sponge
Not only are they perfect for applying foundation and concealer, they also work well to put eyeshadow.

Tissue
If powder is not within reach, use tissue to set make-up. Separate the tissue in half, pulling it apart, and then set the inside of the tissue on the face. The fibers from the tissue can be used to blot or as an anti-shine.
Cotton pad
Use circular cotton pads to apply blush.
Toothbrush
A clean and unused toothbrush can work wonders for brow grooming and to exfoliate your lips.